I've become slightly unhinged from reading about Elliot Spitzer and all the Republican gay sex scandals. As attorney general, Spitzer had prosecuted prostitution and fulminated against it. Similarly with Republicans and gay sex. Looking back I see that I've been had. I believed all that that. Not that I agreed, but I thought those guys were for real.

I think it is fair to say that I've been naïve. Others have understood full well that men love sex, and that the men denying it are either lying to fit in with a dishonest culture or are deranged by living in that dishonest culture.

I can't help noticing that there are few people to look up to here. Others may well understand but they are happy enough to shelter below the parapet and keep the silence.

So I mention Lena, not as confession or self disclosure, but as advocacy and activism. Lonely and disabled? Don't settle for pornography and five fingered masturbation. Buy yourself toys that turn you on and enjoy!

For 47 years I've listened respectfully as authority figures tell ludicrous lies about sex and my sin has been to believe them. Now I want to celebrate sex in all its weird and wonderful forms. If you really want the details of sexual practises with which you are unfamiliar, then I'm happy to tell you. If you want to mock me into silence, you are choosing to side with Foley, Craig, Haggard, Allen, Murphy, et al.

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